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Father Knows Best: Dealing With Conflict

Today, we continue our series, The Father Knows Best.  This is a series designed to help us strengthen our marriages, get our marriages started out right or prepare us for the day that we get married.  And, throughout the entire series, we keep focusing on the differences between God’s plan for marriage and the world’s plan for marriage. 

One thing that is a certainty in marriage is that there will always be conflict.  Conflict is a part of marriage no matter how strong or solid our marriages might be.  The important thing to discuss though is how we deal with those conflicts.  And, God has given us some important words to help us put it in perspective.

Eph. 4:25   Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another.  26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil.  28 Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need.  29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.  30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.  32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

1. Deal With It In Truth
Eph. 4:25   Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another.

  1. End It Now

Eph 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,

  1. Watch Your Mouth

Eph. 4:29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. 

Proverbs 10:19  In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.

  1. Listen

Eph 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

James 1:19-20  So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

Proverbs 18:13 He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.

  1. It Starts With You

Eph 4:31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.

  1. God’s Plan

Eph 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.